ALOHAAAAA! A new weekend means a new communication blog update. This week, we learnt about interpersonal relationship during our lectures, and coincidentally, as you all know, Singapore’s Wedding of The Year was held last Wednesday, 30 September 2009. Mediacorp artistes, Fann Wong, 38 and Christopher Lee, 37(I insist on the emphasis of their ages), finally tied the knot after 10 years of courtship. Phew, finally, after twelve years of devouring. Being the hottest couple on and off set, the duo had a high probability of contact as they starred in a handful of films (as a couple) together, which was probably how their feelings for each other developed. Rumours of them being an item started 12 years ago, when they starred in a drama which everyone back then knew about, and I got to know about the rumours too when my parents discussed about it.
Working together allowed them to have closer proximity with one another; the lanky couple had similarities not only in their height but also in their careers. The close proximity can form relationship due to the greater opportunity for interaction which is definitely less intimidating than meeting someone with a totally different life. Like the newly weds, many have the tendency to form relationship with those they perceive to be similar to themselves since it reduces uncertainties and the associated risks. At the beginning of the relationship, attitudinal similarities such as beliefs, values and preferences can help bridge the unfamiliarity by conversing about common topics they are interested in, which allows them to know each other better. When the relationship ripens, social preference similarities such as shared social activities can keep the relationship going strong. Yet on the other hand, others prefer to look for someone who are different from who they are as they believe that complementary differences can sustain a relationship as they function better together than separately. However, differences can cause conflict in terms of the clashing of views about relational needs- intimacy vs distance, openness vs closeness, autonomy vs connection and novelty vs predictability. According to Duck’s model of Relational Dissolution, it is shown that there is still a possibility for the couple to find out what’s going wrong in their relationship and mend it before it breaks apart, although it may lead to separation at times.
Negatives aside, let’s talk about the other extreme, those that show too much affection to one another publicly and being oblivious to their surroundings in other words, PDA (Public Display of Affection). Just last night, a friend of mine was complaining to me about a teenage couple she saw at a well-known coffee shop. They were spreading kaya, butter and sugar onto each others lips and licking them off. Yikes! Totally gross and absolutely revolting especially when you’re eating! I don’t care what you do privately but please let the rest of the people of you have peace, go get a room instead! I’m not extremely traditional but I feel that we all should know our limits as to what can be done in public and what cannot. Maybe this is what they call “falling head over heels with each other”, they think with their toes instead of their brains.
“A lot of our friends find us too mushy- they say we’re gross but I feel we’re just being ourselves. This is how we truly feel about each other” -Chris (8days Issue989)
There you go, another example. Not only do they use hair raising terms of endearment like “Ai Ai”, the newly weds can never get enough of each other, causing their friends to scream for help. Alright, I’ll spare them since they just stepped into a new stage of their relationship.
Love is in the air! *floats around* <3
Credits: 8 Days Issue 989, entertainment.sg.msn.com/
personally, I really dont give a heck about ppl who display their affection in the public.
But for the sake of reputation and decency, i feel one shouldnt be PDA-ing outside in the public. It is totally alright if you were to do it privately- just as long you dont cause someone to be disgusted.
The reason someone display their affection outside in the public is to “show off”. Therefore their act of love is to display their affection to others, proving to ppl that they were truly madly deeply in love.
But really la, save it for urself. its okay to be affectionate. totally alright; it’s also an act of love. but do it among yourself, dont make others feel awkward.
Is this the movie named “Wedding Game” starred by Christopher Lee and Fann Wong or is this for real? Seriously, i couldn’t find a answer to that cause some of these are just too commercialized. Love is simple, Wedding is simple and so is whatever get along with it. However, i feel it help encourage people in Singapore to long for a fairy tale wedding as well, don’t you agree? I love to give my wife the best wedding too. (Best is subjective to availability of cash and practicality. ) So don’t let this set your standard cause the funding comes from different source. You need not a grand wedding to say the simple 3 words – i love you.
Just be where you are and fulfill what you can, love is pure.