Butch, bung, lesbian, transsexuals. These terms are used to label these women who want or has gone through a sex change. An article on today’s The New Paper on Sunday page 10-11 talks about a forum, SgButterfly, was being set up for female-born transsexuals to share their experiences in the forum. I believe many of us would give this group of people a queer (pun intended) look whenever we walk pass them on the streets. Some of us even lament on how they are really weird to prefer being a male than to be how they were born since Day One, and how they would bring disgrace to their families. Some even perceive them to be abnormal mentally. These queer looks, are a form of non-verbal communication classified under Oculesics, which is the study of non-verbal meaning associated with the eyes. As the Chinese saying goes, “Eyes are the windows to the souls”, they reveal your thoughts and feelings openly without having to say a word. By giving them “the look”, you are indicating to them that you are disgusted by their male tendency and out casting them! Indeed, as mentioned by Jack in the article, problems like these are inevitable. Even his doctor thought that he should drop the sex change idea and meet men instead! He shared that the hardest part of the transition is to break the news about his sex change to his family and friends for he knew that they would disapprove of his actions. Many of them questioned him and tried to make him change his mind. So, what has formed this perception of theirs against transsexuals? Perception, is defined as the process of selecting, organising and interpreting information in order to give personal meaning to the communication we receive. In this context, the communication we receive refers to these female-born transsexuals. Selection begins with a cognitive process, whereby our brain sorts out stimulus from another based on specific criteria. Since the norm in the society is to be straight, lesbianism or being a transsexual is deemed abnormal, and thus, being consciously outcasted. Selections can be influenced in various ways, for example, andividual characteristics. Cultural background can shape one’s perception of transsexuals. In Thailand, transsexuals are males wanting to be females since Thailand carabet shows are common in the country whereas in countries like Indonesia, where majority of the population are Muslims, same sex marriage or even homosexuality is forbidden. The mass media also shapes the way we think. Earlier this year, Singapore launched the Pink Dot campaign to fight the prejudice,fear and ignorance against LGBT(Lesbians,Gays,Bisexuals and Transgenders). With such events, it would definitely attract many in the community to change their perspectives towards these minorities. Below are the videos of the event held in May this year, what are your views on these transgenders?
I suppose such negative response and quizzical looks from others are inevitable for LGBTs. Singapore is still pretty much a conservative society. There isnt a need to ostracise them, but im highly doubtful that they’ll be fully accepted by everybody.
This is a controversial topic to talk about. But I feel it is really alright to be gay, it is more vital that you accept yourselves for who you are. There’s a reason why someone grew up seeing him or herself of the opposite gender, I believe, everything happens for a reason. Moreover, sexuality is just a small part of life.
Irony of life. Man stuck in a woman’s body and vice versa. We do not know what causes these, however we are who we are. It does not matter if you want to be a man or woman. You do not live your life for sexuality. When encountered with such issues, counselling is a must. But if all fails, sex change will be the last resort.
As we know God created Adam and Eve and not Steve, therefore there are bound to be people who will ostrasize them. Morally, in my opinion, homosexuality is wrong, however emotionally I feel for them. This does not mean that I advocate homosexuality but we are living in a society of free will.
Therefore there are so many things to reconcile and homosexuality will always be a controversial topic even if the trend becomes a social norm.
I certainly has a bunch of gay friends ard me ranging from close girlfriends to friend’s friend or so. I have to say im alr used to their existance in the society. However, i did noticed that there’s an alarming rising rate of gays recently. Seeing them in sch, on bus, in trains and shopping malls, basically everywhere! Girls with short hair, cross dressing and guys with soft and feminine actions. It still send chills down my spine sometime but in my opinion, no matter how the society persecute them, they will be still there in our lifes. So maybe we all shld accept them but of course not letting them be an bad influence to us.
I don’t personally despise them, though i don’t totally agree with their behavior. It’s a matter of choice and nothing else. It’s like when you wake up in the morning and say it’s a great day or it’s a gloomy day, it sets your tone for the day. If you choose to be a lesbian or gay or bi-sexual, no one can change you. Circumstances caused? I doubt so until you made the decision to be one. Seriously, positive and negative attracts, you fill up the hole in each other. Male and female created different for a purpose, so fulfill the purpose – fruitfulness. Don’t let someone change your original intend. =)